The Real Cost of Oversharing With Your Boss

The Real Cost of Oversharing With Your Boss

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Can You Mix Your Personal Life Into Your Work?

Mixing your personal and professional lives had grown in popularity even before Covid-19. Popular TED Talks, Harvard Business Review articles, books, and even social media accounts promote the benefits of "bring your full humanity to work" or bringing our authentic selves to work. And what's not to love? Building a work environment where 

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Can You Mix Your Personal Life Into Your Work?

people can show vulnerability, ask their bosses for what they need, and safely express themselves would of course create a happier group of employees. These utopian workplaces never include absentee bosses, toxic workplaces, and commutes that impact your health.

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Disadvantages of Oversharing at Work

Whether you call it oversharing or workplace TMI (too much information), the side effects may include extreme awkwardness and dwindling respect.  That's because we have these general "rules" of what's acceptable to share at work—and when a person goes too far and shares something too personal or something that 

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Disadvantages of Oversharing at Work

makes you uncomfortable, boundaries get crossed. In addition to crossing the boundaries of your coworkers, sharing too much information can also take the focus away from your great work and instead put the focus on your personal life. Your personal life details could cast you in a negative light with coworkers 

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Disadvantages of Oversharing at Work

and make you seem irresponsible, reckless, or insecure. And their opinions about your actions may cloud how people at work view you, your decisions, and your work.

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Good Sharing vs. Bad Oversharing With Your Boss

Good Oversharing Good or positive sharing doesn't mean you can't be authentic or human.  It doesn't mean you can't share when you're having a bad day or need a break. It simply means knowing or putting some limits in place. One type of "good" oversharing is providing enough context to help your coworkers better understand.

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Good Sharing vs. Bad Oversharing With Your Boss

Bad Oversharing Unfortunately, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this.  The safest advice is to follow your boss's lead and to filter what you share by asking yourself if what you're sharing showcase your human side or showcases you as a problem/something to be concerned about.

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Tips to Prevent From Sharing Too Much Information

Here are some things you can ask yourself to prevent yourself from oversharing: – Is this the appropriate person in my life with whom to share this information? Or is this conversation a better fit for someone else (e.g., a parent, friend, partner, therapist, etc.)? – Are you trying to gain sympathy? Are you trying to brag? Are you trying to force a relationship that isn’t really 

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Tips to Prevent From Sharing Too Much Information

there by oversharing? – If this person I'm sharing information with didn't engage with me or the information, how would I feel after? Embarrassed? Fine? – Does sharing this information stir the pot or create gossip at all?

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How to Recover from Oversharing

The best way to recover from oversharing is through your behavior. When you make a mistake, it can backfire to try to explain and look like you're making excuses.  Your best bet is to own your mistake, explain what you learned from it, and then change your behavior moving forward. Here are a few phrases you can try:

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How to Recover from Oversharing

– "My bad. That didn't land the way I intended." – "Pardon me. I'm prying into your personal life, and it's not my intention to make this uncomfortable." – Oops, I'm oversharing. Let me re-focus here."

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